Self-sacrificing maybe ruining your nursing career.

How do you find yourself after you have given yourself away?

I strongly believe that most nurses go into nursing with a passion to help other people. The problem with passion for helping other people is that it can become self-sacrificing and even draining if the person has not learned their own personal limits. What I see is the lines between helping is crossed and we venture into a place where work becomes exhausting as we are sacrificing ourselves and our own dreams to please other people.

For my clients this has looked like:

- Ignoring their children and skipping family time in the evenings to be available for patients.

- Staying in a position for years due to fear of abandoning their patients.

- Working overtime because they behind on their own work, doing work for coworkers.

Sacrificing yourself does not make you a better caregiver, a better human, and it most certainly doesn't make you a better nurse. The only thing it does is give away parts of yourself until you feel like there is nothing left.

How do you stop the cycle of self-sacrifice?

Stop making up poisonous stories about yourself.

Stop saying things like "I am a giver" and "I don't know how to let people take care of me" like they are facts. While they sound sweet to say, they are a poison that we say to make us feel better, but ultimately only hurt us and prevent us from accepting other people's help.

Believe in your worth.

You are the only one who determines your worth. It is not determined by the patients you take care of, your boss's opinion, or anything else. You are worthy of your dreams, your goals, and unconditional self-love.

Unlearn these behaviors by setting up a free coaching call for us to discuss.

Just like you learned a behavior, you can unlearn it and this is a great place to hire a coach to help you. I have helped nurses learn to turn their work phones off at home, intentionally leave their job, and develop better relationships between their coworkers.

Are you ready to stop letting self-sacrifice ruin your nursing career?

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I believe in you and all that you can achieve.

XOXO,

Mary B.